It’s one of the most common questions people ask when they first learn about houseparenting: “Will I have any time for myself?”

And it’s a fair question—especially if you’ve spent years juggling your own family, career, and personal commitments. The idea of living where you work and caring for kids full-time can sound all-consuming.

But here’s the truth: Yes, you can be a houseparent and still have a life. It just looks a little different.

Most houseparent roles are structured with built-in time off and clear shifts. If you’re caring for school-aged children, you have free time during their school day, between drop off and pick up.

Weekly, monthly, and annual schedules vary widely by employer. While it’s pretty safe to say there’s no 9-5 in this career, it’s common for houseparents to work 5-14 days in a row then have a few days off while another set of houseparents steps in. It’s also common to have longer breaks 1-2 times per year so that you can prioritize a true period of respite.

Many houseparent couples say the rhythm of this lifestyle actually allows for more intentional rest. You know when your breaks are coming. You don’t bring work home, because home and work are one and the same—and that clear division can be freeing.

On your days off, you can visit family, enjoy hobbies, attend church, or just spend quiet time alone. You can still be involved in your own kids’ lives, travel occasionally, or go on date nights with your spouse.

Of course, houseparenting is more than a job—it’s a calling. There will be hard days, long days, and emotional days. But the right employer will ensure the structure is designed to support you, so you can keep showing up strong for the kids in your care.

So if you’re wondering whether this role will swallow up your life, rest assured: you don’t have to lose yourself to say yes to this calling.